- Actress Maricar Reyes-Poon shared why she considers ‘harmless’ texts as a form of cheating
- On Instagram, Maricar shared her recent blog about ‘harmless’ texts and ’emotional cheating’
- She said cheating sometimes begins with actions that seems to be harmless
Actress Maricar Reyes-Poon shared why she considers “harmless” texts as a form of cheating.
On Instagram, Maricar shared her recent blog titled Emotional ‘cheating’ — harmless or not?
“Let’s say you’re in a relationship, but you meet someone else. You feel a ‘connection.’ You exchange messages. Then soon those messages become something you look forward to. ‘Yung may konting kilig na. Is that emotional cheating? Ever experienced something like that?” she wrote.
In her blog at RelationshipMatters.ph, the actress said cheating sometimes begins with actions that seems to be harmless.
“Years ago, I had a boyfriend and our relationship was having problems. Then a common friend introduced me to Steve (not his real name) at a party. I enjoyed talking to Steve that night, relieved to be away from the problems I had with my boyfriend. Days after, we exchanged some ‘harmless’ messages: ‘Stuck in traffic! What u doing?’, ‘Hey I just passed by your school!’, ‘Know any good restos in QC?’ , ‘Bored! ‘Musta?’ I didn’t want to admit it back then, but Steve’s messages weren’t ordinary to me. May konting kilig, so I felt guilty,” she shared.
“I’d make myself feel better by thinking, ‘I’m not doing anything wrong. Steve is just a friend,'” she continued.
But talking to Steve did not do anything good to her relationship with her boyfriend then.
“Talking to Steve didn’t help my relationship AT ALL. I looked forward to Steve’s messages more than my boyfriend’s. I was becoming emotionally tangled with Steve. Looking back, this wasn’t as harmless as I thought. Would I be OK if my boyfriend was exchanging messages with a girl that he had some ‘kilig’ for? It’s absolutely NOT OK. I would feel uncomfortable, or even betrayed. So it was unfair of me to do it to him,” she said.
What they do
Now with her “forever, Maricar said she and her husband Richard Poon do their best to protect their relationship and shun any form of cheating.
“Our mentors told us to do our best to guard each other against increasing levels of emotional attachment to another person, especially in a committed relationship. It feels uneasy, but Richard and I tell each other in detail who we are attracted to. Admitting the truth makes the kilig emotions less powerful. Hiding it from each other makes them stronger!” she shared.
“We also help each other keep our distance, and make sure we don’t have long conversations alone with the ‘attractive’ person. Richard and I realize that fighting for our relationship is a team effort!” she further noted.
Well, these are thought to ponder on and worth weighing.